Thursday, April 9, 2015

Outliers: The Story of Success by Malcolm Gladwell


"If you have the ability, the vast network of scouts and talent spotters will find you, and if you are willing to work to develop that ability, the system will reward you."

"Our hero is born in the modest circumstances and by virtue of his own grit and talent fights his way to greatness"

"People don't rise from nothing. We do owe something to parentage and patronage."

"It is only by asking where they are from that we can unravel the logic behind who succeeds and who doesn't."

"This is not a book about tall trees. This is a book about forests."

"Selection, streaming and differentiated experience"

"Teachers are confusing maturity with ability."

"It is those who are successful, in other words, who are most likely given kinds of special opportunities."

"Success is the result of what sociologists like to call a cumulative advantage."

"We make rules that frustrate achievement."

"Achievement is talent plus preparation."

"Once a student has enough ability to get into a top school, the thing that distinguishes one student from another is how hard he or she works."

"Practice isn't the thing you do once you're good. It's the thing you do that makes you good."

"He has talent by the truckload. But that's not the only consideration. It never is."

"Programming with cards did not teach you programming. It taught you patience and proofreading."

"But before he could become an expert, someone had to give him the opportunity to learn how to be an expert."

"There is nothing about an individual as important as his IQ, except possibly his morals."

"The intellect and achievement are far from perfectly correlated."

"He'd had to make his way alone, and no one--not rock stars, not professional athletes, not software billionaires and not even geniuses--ever makes it alone."

"Word "luck" fails to capture the work and the efforts and the imagination and the acting on opportunities that might have been hidden and not so obvious."

"Autonomy, complexity and a connection between effort and reward--are the three qualities that work has to have if it is to be satisfying. It is not how much money we make that ultimately make us happy between 9 - 5. It's whether our work fulfills us."

"Hard work is a prison sentence only if it does not have meaning."

"The critical advantage in climbing the professional ladder wasn't the intellectual rigor you get from studying. It was the practical intelligence and savvy you get from watching your father sell aprons on the street."

"Groups of people living in circumstances pretty similar to their ancestors act a lot like their ancestors."

"Cultural legacies are powerful forces. They have deep roots and long lives. They persist, generation after generation, virtually intact, even as the economic and social demographic conditions that spawned them have vanished, and they play such a role in directing attitudes and behavior that we cannot make sense of our world without them."

"Korean air did not succeed--it did not right itself--until it acknowledged the importance of cultural legacy."

"If a man works hard, the land will not be lazy."

"Virtually every success story we've seen in this book so far involves someone or some group working harder than their peers."

"Success is a function of persistence and doggedness and the willingness to work hard for 22 minutes to make sense of something that most people would give up on after 30 seconds."



Monday, December 8, 2014

Hope for the Flowers by Trina Paulus


"There must be more to life than just eating and getting bigger."
There must be more to teaching my students, nurturing my family and excelling in my studies but whatever that "more" is I leave it all to God. What matters is I am definitely becoming better each day with what I do best--loving my job, my family and myself. 

"The single-minded approach"
I really hope I can do this but with so many things on hand, NEVER MIND. 

"No matter what is up there--it just isn't worth it."
When you reach the top, you realize it is a very lonely place because you are all alone.  

"Each know every hair of each other."
This is the danger of long term relationships. Boredom will always be around the corner but so is creativity.

"Yellow: We can have a nice home and we love each other and that's enough. It's much more than those lonely climbers."
There is indeed danger in being too ambitious. You might be getting exactly what you want but end up having no one to share it with. 

"But she couldn't believe that the top was worth all it asks to get there."
You should never give it all, leave a piece to yourself.

"She could never put the reasons into words that his kind of logic will accept."
I am just grateful my hubby would sometimes just use my logic so we can rest my case.

"She crawled daily to the pile looking for him and returning home at night sad, but half relieved that she never saw him. If she had, she feared she might plunge after him knowing that she shouldn't. "
One of the most difficult word to comprehend is "goodbye".

"Finally she became numb and wandered away from everything familiar."
I am so happy I did this myself.

"How can I believe there's a butterfly inside you or me when all I see is a fuzzy worm?"
Just believe.

"What looks like you will die but what's really you will still live. Life is changed not taken away."
It looks like my pursuit for higher education is killing me but I know I will survive and live with a renewed vision of success--either from failing or succeeding. 

"It just takes time."
Yes, I am impatient and so is time so it made me wait.

"He especially avoided meeting the eyes of other crawlers. He knew how fatal such contact could be."
Believe me. It can ruin your life.

"Stripe's feet frozen, to be so high and not high at all! It only looked good from the bottom."
Sometimes, it will only look good at the very start. 

"To get to the top you must fly not climb."
This is a matter of option by the way. 

Friday, April 20, 2012

Loving Each Other by Buscaglia

Life devoid of mystery and risk is only half a life.

All I really owned was what I was.

Learn to listen. You don't learn anything from hearing yourself talk.

If I were living with me, would I stick around?

Be polite. Love does not give you the license to be for rudeness.

What a grand feeling to have a relationship with someone who is loved not only by you but by many. That means you've made a good choice.

Don't think in terms of forever. Think of now, and forever will take care of itself.

With each relationship you are not only giving but becoming more.

There are times when you may want to give up on a relationship, but never give up on relating.

After an argument is over, forget it.

Feelings have meaning only as they are expressed in action.

Perhaps much happiness is lost in the pursuit of it.

We must learn that loving others is to want them to be themselves--painful as it may be--with or without you.

Laughter is the closest distance between people.

Playing truth or consequence by oneself.

A loving relationship is one which offers comfort in the silent presence of another with whom you know and that special thrill of happiness simply in being together.

A loving relationship is one in which the loved one is free to be himself--to laugh with me, but never at me; to cry with me, but never because of me; to love life, to love himself and to love being loved.

The more we fail to speak, the more difficult speaking becomes.

Having language has nothing to do with communication.

It is obvious that there is more to communication than what meets the ear.

Be careful with the words you use because they may be using you.

Wounds heal quickly when one knows unquestionably that love is there.

We are not evil, incompetent and inadequate when our relationships fail.

We have been poisoned by fairytales.

When you love someone. You do not love them all the time.

There is no being or becoming without relationships.

It's not the big problems that cause relationships to fail, it's a series of small things over a long period of time; little inconsiderate behaviour, thoughtless comments, small cruel acts, words left unspoken or well-intended acts that are constantly put off for a later time.

Relationships fail not because they are wrong but because most people don't want to correct their problems. They want their own way.

Relationships are not dumping grounds for our selfishness, egocentricity, despair and anger.